"Love needs time and space; everything else is secondary. Time is needed to talk things over, to embrace leisurely, to share plans, to listen to one other and gaze in each other's eyes, to appreciate one another and to build a stronger relationship."
Amoris Laetitia - Pope Francis
To begin planning for your wedding, please call the Rectory at (631) 757-8184 for an appointment to meet with a priest or deacon.
As part of the marriage preparation process, you will each be asked to complete a “FOCCUS” (Facilitating Open Couple Communication, Understanding and Study) Survey.
This survey reflects how well the feelings and expectations of each person complement the other. After completing it, most couples immediately begin to ask each other, “What did you put for that question?” The FOCCUS survey has worked. It assists both of you in discovering areas of communication you may not have considered.
The priest or deacon will invite you back within a few weeks to review the survey results.
The celebrant for your wedding will be one of Our Lady Queen of Martyrs’ priests or deacons. If you know a priest or deacon and wish to invite them to celebrate your wedding you are most welcome to do so. You are asked to have the priest or deacon write to our pastor, Msgr. John Gilmartin, for permission to perform the ceremony.
Your Wedding Liturgy
The celebrant will meet with you to discuss the plans for your wedding liturgy, including your music selections, once you have completed the Marriage Preparation Program. This is a very important part of the process and the celebrant will be happy to assist you. It is helpful to complete the liturgy planning several months before the wedding so you may prepare your wedding programs. We can provide sample booklets as a guide.
To ensure the solemnity of your liturgy, we require photographers and/or videographers to be stationed behind the congregation and remain there for the entire ceremony. They may not move around the Church during the ceremony and no additional lighting sources are permitted. Pictures may be taken at the altar after the ceremony, providing there is not another ceremony or celebration of Mass immediately following.
You are welcome to provide floral arrangements for your wedding. Our Wedding Coordinator will be able to answer any questions regarding flowers.
For the safety of the guests at your wedding, flower petals, rice and aisle runners are not permitted. Bubbles may be used to “shower” the bride and groom outside the Church.
With all of your preparation completed, we are confident your wedding ceremony will be the special and joyful celebration of which you have dreamed. Thank you in advance for your efforts at being on time, as the Church is often in use for various liturgies.
We hope this webpage answers any questions you may have and provides you with the information necessary to plan your wedding at Our Lady Queen of Martyrs.
We are here to support you now and throughout your married life.
Please feel free to contact us with any further questions (631) 757-8184.